HELP! MY MOM WANTS ME TO MARRY HER FRIEND!!!

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Hello Aunty Muna, my name is Emelda and  I'm 25 years old.  During my Youth Service I met a guy and we've been dating for 8months. We are both madly in love that we are actually planning a future together.

Aunty Muna the problem I have is my mother. She lives outside the country where she works as a nurse. Now she has a colleague we call uncle Jide. He is about 48 years old and very rich. He told my mom he wants to marry me and my mom is all for it without considering my feelings.

Before now I told her about my boyfriend and they even spoke severally. She told me she liked him because of his humility and that she thinks he would make a good husband. Two weeks ago she called to ask me some questions about my guy, e.g his background, what my boyfriend does for a living etc and I answered her honestly. She also asked me for his age and I told her he is 29. 

I was seriously shocked when she said was she doesn't think it would work for us and when I tried to make a case for him, she told me I was bewitched by the guy and that I had lost my senses. She went on to ask how I can be suffering with a guy that's 29 and doesn't even have a source of income. I was still trying to understand what was going on when she hit the nail on the head and said to me; "Emelda, now listen to me, Jide has asked for your hand in marriage and I have accepted so he is coming this Easter for the traditional rights." I froze.... I didn't even know when I asked her which Jide we were talking about and she boldly shouted "Your uncle Jide now?". She also said that they were already getting things ready to process my documents so that I can be an American citizen... Haaaa... Blue Murder...

I disagreed totally that I can't marry a man I don't love or feel anything for,and since den she's not been happy with me. She stopped sending me money and calling me.

When I called her the last time, and told her I was broke, she asked if I'm ready to do what she wants and I said no. She then told me to go and collect money from my boyfriend.

For now, my boyfriend doesn't give me money, because he doesn' t have. He is a graduate of business-admin from University of Ilorin and is yet to get a job.

I have no one to turn to. My dad died when I was 3 months and mummy has taken (good) care of me since then.

Please I need advise, I do not know what to do.