6 Tips for Finding and Keeping your man.

Keeping a steady relationship has been one the toughest things around for us today. In today`s world and with the latest technology and complexities of life  both men and women feel it is hard to find a good partner as a lot of people pretend today. For instance a lot of women cry about the guy they just started dating, sometimes the guy is too ignorant, possessive, jealous or disrespectful and at other times he is a flirt who messes around with your best friend and so on.
Women always want to date someone exciting, someone in whom they see a potential for a meaningful relationship that will hopefully end up in marriage, yet they will nag him for the smallest sincere mistake.

Hmmm.. My big question now is, where are all the good guys? Are there no more good guys in town or is there a problem in our approach or attitude that make good guys run from us? Sisters, let us look inwards. We as women have almost the same characteristics so I know what happens in most relationships. Let us find out where we are wrong in finding and keeping a good man for ourselves because there are so many fishes in the sea yet it is difficult to catch a nice one.

(1) The first thing we need to do is to give him his space.

In any relationship there has to be a boundaries, when you respect that line of control it is easier to give space to the other person. Keeping track is okay out of love and concern but probing him all the time about his whereabouts wouldn't be a good idea. It will just make you a nuisance before him. It is always better to find out from the very beginning if he is ok with the idea and if he says it's  ok, please proceed BUT with caution lol. Yeah, we women love our men checking on us but I don't believe men love the idea. In the quest for finding a good man sometimes we forget to draw the line. No guy likes being probed all the time. Keep this in your mind and I am sure you will hit the jackpot.

(2) Mind Your Expression

Sweethearts, expressing yourself is completely fine but going all the way to the extent of being hysterical or nag and sob uncontrollably is a big NO-NO dolls. Puuuuhhleeees, control your `Awwwwwws`, ouchhhh, and `So cute` type of baby talks, men may not tell how irritating this is to them particularly when they feel they've found a wife material, they see you as being fake and sure will treat you like a fake product. Please sisters be real at all times ok? Do not limit your vocabulary though but there are thousand different and more mature words to describe a thing, it is not necessary to label everything as `cute` all the time. Once a friend quoted `It’s easy to dump a DUMB girl lol. So do not be that dumb chick who does not know what to speak and where. Always remember an intelligent man looks for an intelligent woman, your way of finding a good  man will only be a success if you yourself becomes a good woman. Real man equal real woman.

(3) Avoid PDA (public display of affection)

Everybody must not know that you two are together and in love. Girls usually want to indulge into Public Display of Affection to get rid of their insecurities and to show to the goddamn world that they are in love. This is the height of insecurity. What the heck!! Nobody wants to or should know what is going on in your personal life, keep calm. Moreover, your guy hates it too. Ask any sensible normal guy and they would agree with me. Keep your peekaboo activities to yourself in your love nest.

Though this is not a thumb rule, as some guys are different and they don’t care about status quos or PDA’s. but you should be sure that your guys don’t hate PDA’s.

(4) Boy`s Night Out

Do not get upset whenever your guy decides to grab a drink with his friends. Free him a bit. A little change will help your bonding instead of gluing to each other all the time. Trust me. There is nothing more a guy wants than a boy`s night out once in a month or so. Don’t nag about it, let him enjoy his time please. It helps in you affairs.

(5) Avoid Trivial issues

Making a mountain out of a molehill every time he says or does something that you do not approve of is a BIG NO. Avoid the blame game please. Blaming everything on the poor fellow will just make him run away from you. Proving a point is alright but try to maintain a balance and know when to stop the fight. When it’s your fault accept it and tender and apology ok?

(6) Be Who You Are

Always be happy the way you are. Try to relax and enjoy the time of togetherness, instead of worrying `How do I look` or `Will he notice my fat tummy? `  I don't want him to notice that I'm short o. Be yourself and stop pretending to gain the true affection of the person who values you. He saw all that before he approached you please. Love yourself at all times. You are beautiful just the way you are.

By following this simple rule i assure all my lovely sisters that it will not be hard to find and keep a good man now. Please let me know where you found the Mr. good man of your life? Mmmuah.