We Are Tough People...

Life is not a bed of roses was a saying I heard frequently as a growing child. I believe that most if not all of us have at one time or the other gone through though times in our lives and we got through them, however some got through them easily and on the other hand some people had to fight for a while to rush through harsh times.

So what’s their secret? Here are 9 things to remember when life is not going according to plan. The first thing is:

1. Please Stop Complaining. Stop it Right Now! When life is tough obviously, things will not be easy for you but you have to think and act smartly and the first thing you have to do is to stop complaining. Don’t complain and murmur. Never complain for anything you don't have or the things that you wish you had; it will only make the situations even worse for you.
Life will test your patience by creating those situations where you can come up with bunch of complaints. The more you put yourself in check, the more you are able to think and act better. So at such times, watch out for your temperament and never complain.

2. Don’t see the problem as a problem. How? Don’t ever think of your problem as a problem, just hang on there and face that damn snag. Just think about possible solutions, if we don’t have any problem then how will we be able to learn and grow? How will we learn new things if we don't have challenges? If you think it as a learning opportunity then there won’t be a problem any longer. Don’t forget that your happiness is totally based on your perspective. So, either stay with the problem or find solutions to beat them!

3. Stop comparing yourself with others. In bad times, people often make comparison with others. If you still want to compare then compare yourself with people who have it worse than you. Maybe that way you will appreciate God more. Be grateful for the things you have, for food you eat, clothes you wear, a home you live in, be grateful that you even have eyes to read this is enough to be grateful for. Never ever compare yourself with others, you have lots of things which are better than the other people, try to focus on the things you have right now rather than the things you don’t have. Some people have all the money and have serious health issues that money can't solve, so if you have good health and no money for now wouldn't you rise up and praise God Almighty?

4. Always have faith that situations do change. When we go through bad times, we often think that there is no way out, we think nothing will ever change. But guess what? It will certainly change for good! Have faith in yourself and in God and believe that bad times won’t last forever in fact nothing last forever except God and with God on your side your next level is assured. It is always said that tough times don't last but tough people do. So believe that things won’t be like this forever. They will change but you need to take some initiative for the things to change. It won’t change magically on its own, you need to move.

5. Learn from your Failures. Experience is the best teacher they say, so If you are failing it means that you’re doing something, maybe wrongly but you are also learning something. “If you haven’t failed that means you haven’t tried anything yet.” Learn from failures, learn how to do better next time. Go and check out the people who had done something great in life, they always had faced failure. And don’t figure out your failures as “the end” rather consider them as the new learning opportunities and the beginning of your greatness. So learn from your failures and make your each and every shot count.

6. Don’t get emotionally attached to your desires. Most people seriously attach themselves to their desires. When they don’t get it eventually, their emotions plunge into negativity. Don’t attach your emotions to your desires, as it will surely affect the peace of your mind if you end up losing. By doing this way your emotions will remain happy or neutral. Have a clear mind at all times.

7. If you want to change something then start with changing yourself. “Nothing can bring you peace but yourself”- Ralph Waldo Emerson. So do you think you need to change anything? Okay then let’s start with changing yourself because your outer world is the reflection of your inner world. Keep in mind that “If you keep on doing whatever you were doing, you will keep on getting whatever you were getting.” So if you want more, go ahead and change yourself, only then will the wind of change start blowingin your direction.

8. Learn to Celebrate Little successes. Some people are actually too deep in their problems so much that they don’t celebrate their small wins. They are in chaos with their life that they even forget how to live a happy life; they don’t even allow themselves to have fun. Firstly allow yourself to experience happiness, celebrate small winnings and more importantly try to focus on joys, not your sufferings.

9. Anything and Everything is Possible; Miracles still happen here on this earth but the condition is that you have to be prayerful and expectant. Don’t let your problems suppress you. You may sleep a poor man tonight and wake up a millionaire tomorrow. I've seen this happen severally. There's this guy that was nicknamed NFA meaning NO FUTURE AMBITION, he was written off as someone nothing good could come out of but today he is a multi millionaire. A well celebrated success.

Trust me: miracles happen all the time. You just need to believe it does. Once you believe in God and that you can do it, then the battle is half won.

Your Turn NOW

It’s your turn now to act. So go ahead and plan your goals accordingly and change your situations. I know you can do it. You just need to keep in mind these 9 points to set the ball rolling.

Move on. Don't look back. Don't worry always be happy.... Peace.

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