How has your day been? Mine has been wonderful because of you guys...hugs. I got something from one of my babies in my BBM Family and it's like a guideline on dos and donts in your relationship.... Thanks CYNY for this great tips but I refuse to accept number 6 o, lol. Anyway read as see if you agree with me or not.
10 mistakes that can wreck your relationship:
★1. Too many questions about the past:
The fact that your man is in a relationship with you currently is proof enough that he is in love with you and has already gotten over his past relationships. While it’s good to know a little bit about his past, don’t take the liberty of digging so deep that his wounds freshen up.
★2. Visiting his workplace:
This is quite a sensitive issue as most men don’t like their girlfriends or wives dropping in at their workplaces without being told. Even if you are in a steady relationship or married you shouldn't take the liberty of dropping into your man’s workplace uninformed. Save yourself from stress.
★3.Bringing up marriage:
If you have been in a relationship for a longtime, it’s but natural that youwill talk about marriage and settling down at some point. You may have a conversation about this once but don’t bring up the topic again and again. You will be at a loss if your man gets irritated by the same conversation taking place repetitively. It’s not that men are averse to commitment; it’s just that they take some time in taking these important decisions.
★4. Pretending to be someone:
If there is anything that men hate, it is lies and hypocrisy. Many women make the blunder of pretending to be what they are not in reality. For instance, if you don’t like putting on make-up and dressing too much for a party, don’t do it just for him. He will immediately sense your discomfort. He would much rather appreciate and love your honesty and expect you to be what you are.
★5. Compare financials quadrants:
How would you feel if someone compared your salary figures to that of your contemporaries? Terrible, surely! Although in today’s world, women see themselves as equals to men, men still think of themselves as bread earners of the family. Treat your man with respect irrespective of his earning. Don’t ever make the mistake of comparing his financials with others.
★6. Don’t attempt to mend/change him:
Accept him with all his flaws and abilities. Don’t try and mother him to change his habits according to yourneeds. Give your man his space and watch how that automatically brings him to you.
★7. Giving too much freedom:
If you see your man talking to other women at most of the parties and even going to the extent of flirting with them when you’re around, take that as a warning signal and strike on it as soon as possible but don’t be rude, do it politely and in style. You may be making a terrible mistake by trusting your partner blindly with such behavior.
★8. Expecting expression of feelings all the time:
Menare not used to constant expression. For instance, you should expect a compliment from him once in a while but if you start expecting it every day then you are calling for trouble. You have to understand that just because men don’t express the way in which women freely do; it doesn’t mean they don’t love with passion.
★9. Talking negatively about others:
If you bitch about others in front of your man all the time (once in a while is acceptable of course), it will make him feel that someday when you are not together you will talk about him in the same way with other people. Don’t make an impressionon him that youare a negative person.
★10. Comparing Looks:
Impress your man by showing some confidence about how beautiful and attractive you look. It’s not your outfit but your confidence that attracts your man. In trying to fish for compliments by comparing your physical appearance with other women, you are just making matters worse.
In-addition: Women often commit blunders with men in relationships. It’s a matter of understanding that men have a certain way of dealing with things that is different from women. Once you get this point, you will be much more comfortable and at ease in dealing with the men in your life.
I don't agree biko, did I hear u say top ten ways 2 do this or dt?
ReplyDeleteThe thing is dt most of d pple dt composes all dz top ten this and that are using what's happening in dr relationships or a few they've seen 2 generalize and these things sometimes takes pple off d track
These things doesn't work 4 everybody. All relationships are unique. Wht works for A may not work for B.
Like no 3 where he said it ain't good 2 be bringing up marriage talks, dt doesn't apply to a relationship dt's like 6yrs and above without consummation. As a forward thinking person, after for a while or some years, u'd wanna kno where u guys are headed. What shall it profit a girl after abt six years of relationship without knowing where its headed, is she a learner?
And dt's jes for no 3 o. If I were 2 take my time in disecting most of these points, u'd find out dt they are not applicable 2 most relatnships.
*yours truly, adent AMB reader*
EESAH my darling, I'm very much in agreement with your opinion. Lol@ what shall it profit a sister... But in fairness to my baby CYNY, she didn't author it, I think she got it and sent it off to me... Btw you didn't ping me today.... You will be fined... Massive love, sugar...
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