OUR HUSBANDS PLEASE STOP DOING THIS TO US......LOL

40 Things Our Husbands Should Stop Doing To Us lol.

Ok guys, we've talked about what women should stop doing to their husbands.... Now.... Now.... Nowwwwww..... What are those things our husbands need to stop doing that hurt us..... Hmmm.  After writing this list I read it out to my husband. Meanwhile, while I read that for the women, he kept smiling and agreeing to everything I wrote and said to me, "sweetheart, if you can avoid doing all these thing on this list I will buy you any car you want...

Now it was the turn for the men and while I read the donts, my husband kept shouting, No, Ah, Hey, Noooo.... But come on, is it too much to ask for? looooool.

Sometimes our men need encouragement in their quest to step up and be the men God has called them to be. Sometimes they need information, and sometimes they need training. Sometimes they need a mentor, someone who will show them how to be godly men, how to love their wives as Christ loves the church.

Here are ONLY 40 ideas. Of course, not all of these items apply to all men. But perhaps something here will hit home for you.

1. Stop acting like the battle is won in pursuing and getting to know your wife. Have fun together, just like you used to do before you walked down the aisle. Good..

2. If your wife is a stay-at-home mom, stop treating her like her work during the day is somehow less strenuous or less important than yours. Good.

3. Stop coming home from work and plopping in front of the television for the night, leaving your wife to bear the responsibility for everything else going on in the home. Great hehehe.

4. Stop working so much. Find a healthy balance between work and family. Your wife would rather have you than a big house, nice car, etc. Yes

5. Stop acting like you’re listening when you’re really watching TV. Haaaa.....

6. Stop allowing the spiritual leadership of the family to default to your wife. Good.

7. Stop being passive when it comes to disciplining and training your kids. Correct. 

8. Stop saying you know and understand what your wife is saying or feeling when you haven’t even listened to what she has to say. So true hehehe.

9. Stop being a closed book. Open up to your wife. Don’t be afraid to show emotion. Don't mind them ooo.

10. Stop allowing your role as leader in the home to be an excuse for selfish behavior. Don’t forget that a true leader also serves. Hehehe.

11. Stop dishonoring your wife by criticizing her in front of your children or in public. Haaaa? Do some men do that?

12. When you wife irritates you, don’t answer right away. Instead count to 10 and remember that she is a gift from God. Ok?

13. Stop using your size and strength and anger to intimidate your wife and children. Good

14. Stop using the word “divorce” in your vocabulary. Hmmm... That's bad.

15. Don’t shy away from difficult conversations with your wife. Yep

16. Stop saying you’ll do something and then procrastinating. Haha... That's true

17. Don’t purchase any major item without first discussing it with your wife. Na so... They call it surprise.

18. It’s impossible not to notice beautiful women who pass by. But don’t allow your eyes to linger. (And if your wife is with you, don’t lie to her and say you didn’t see that woman. Just admit you looked.) I poke my husband when he looks hehehe.

19. Stop thinking, I know more than my wife. You and your wife will each have more knowledge than the other in certain areas. Hmmm... 

20. Don’t assume you know what your wife is thinking. Ask her how she is feeling and why. (I feel bad because I need a new car *wink*

21. When your wife tells you about a problem she’s having, don’t immediately try to solve it. She may just need you to listen to her. Yep

22. Stop the sarcasm. You may be trying to sound funny, but you’re only cutting down your wife. That hurts..

23. Stop treating your wife like a child. Remember that God has given her a wealth of experience and information that you need. Hmmm

24. Stop acting like God and trying to control your wife. Command respect don't demand respect.

25. Stop pointing out her mistakes and asking for explanations. Doing these things can make her feel like a failure. Hmmm... Please encourage us.

26. Never casually or disrespectfully talk to other guys about sex with your wife. True

27. Stop telling your wife that she is supposed to “submit” to you. If she is not following you, that means you’re not leading her as Christ loves the church. Leader vs. Ruler.

28. Stop feeding your sexual desires from any source other than your wife. Yes Yes Yes

29. Don’t be alone with any woman who is not your wife or related to you. True.. Not even your colleague lol

30. Stop discussing deep-level issues with a woman who is not your wife or related to you. True.

31. Stop deceiving your wife about your finances. Why would you do that?

32. Don’t look up old girlfriends on Facebook. Hahaha...

33. Stop putting a number on how often you should enjoy sexual intimacy. Hmmm

34. Stop acting as if you have a GPS programmed into your brain. Before you go somewhere with your wife, get the right address and find out how to get there. If you are lost, don’t hesitate to get directions—from your smartphone map, even from a person. True...

​35. Don’t make fun of your wife to other guys. Are you a learner?

​36. Don’t allow guy-only activities (like playing golf, soccer, etc.) to rob you of leisure time with your wife and kids. True.

​37. Stop expecting your wife to do all the housework. Biko help us small lol.

​38. Stop saying, “Honey … can you get the kids to be quiet?” when the kids are being monsters. Get up and go quiet them down yourself! Correct...

​39. Stop putting all your stuff in the laundry basket and then acting as if you “did the laundry.” Hehehe... Wayo daddy.

​40. Stop acting like stopping over at shoprite is like going to mushin market...lol

Some will say that lists like these are “too much to handle” and this is an example of “trashing” men. But the truth is that Sometimes our husbands need to know what not to do.

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