HELP WITH PREMATURE EJACULATION

​​ Squeeze Technique

If you're overheating during sex, that is premature ejaculation, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger and focus the pressure on the urethra—the tube running along the underside of the penis. The squeeze technique, developed by those icons of sex therapy, Masters and Johnson, pushes blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension and represses the ejaculatory response. (Wow I learnt this today ooo.)

Premature Ejaculation:

Ejaculation, which is usually controlled by the central nervous system, occurs when friction on the genitalia and other forms of sexual stimulation provide impulses that are sent up the spinal cord and into the brain. 

Premature ejaculation is ejaculation that occurs earlier than desired time during sex and causing distress to either one or both partners. It is one of the most common male sexual disorders, affecting a lot of men of all ages. 

Premature ejaculation is a frustrating problem that can reduce the enjoyment of sex, harm relationships and impair quality of life. The occurrence of premature ejaculation is not in itself harmful or a sign of other health problems. If premature ejaculation is not a problem for a man and his partner, treatment is not needed. However, when the problem occurs frequently and/or causes distress to the man or his partner, treatment  is available and is often helpful. 

Premature ejaculation can occur at any stage and age. Surprisingly, aging appears not to be a cause of premature ejaculation. However, the aging process typically causes changes in erectile function and ejaculation. Erections may not be as firm or as large. Erections may be maintained for a shorter period before ejaculating. The feeling that an ejaculation is about to happen may be shorter. These factors can result in an older man having an ejaculation earlier than when he was younger. 

Sometimes premature ejaculation may be a problem in men who have erectile dysfunction; erectile dysfunction is the inability to achieve and/or maintain an erection sufficient for satisfactory sexual performance. In fact, premature ejaculation may be caused by erectile dysfunction especially in a man who needs continual penile stimulation to maintain his erection.  Some men do not understand that the loss of erection normally occurs after ejaculation.  They may wrongly complain to their doctors that they have erectile dysfunction when the actual problem is premature ejaculation. It is recommended that the erectile dysfunction be treated first if you experience both ED and premature ejaculation, since the premature ejaculation may resolve on its own once the ED has been adequately treated. 

What causes Premature ejaculation? Although the exact cause of premature ejaculation is not known, new studies suggest that serotonin, a natural substance produced by nerves, is important. A breakdown of the actions of serotonin in the brain may be a cause.  Studies have found that high amounts of serotonin in the brain slow the time to ejaculation while low amounts of serotonin can produce a condition like premature ejaculation. 

Myths surrounding Premature ejaculation 

Myth: Premature ejaculation is a problem that is entirely in one’s mind. 

Fact: New studies have shown that a low level of serotonin, a natural substance that is produced by nerves, may be a possible cause. 

Myth: Alcohol is a good method for controlling premature ejaculation. 

Fact: Although alcohol can delay orgasm, it is not an effective treatment for premature ejaculation. 

When should a doctor be seen? When premature ejaculation happens so frequently that it interferes with your sexual pleasure, it becomes a medical problem requiring the care of a doctor.

How to talk to your Partner about Premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation affects not only you but also your partner and your sexual relationship. In an episode of premature ejaculation, the intimacy shared with a partner suddenly comes to a quick end. You might feel angry, ashamed, and frustrated, and turn away from your partner. At the same time, your partner may be upset with the rapid emotional change, or the outcome of the sexual encounter. Communication is not only important to successful diagnosis and treatment, but can also help a partner understand the feelings of the individual. Sometimes couple counseling or sex therapy may be useful. Together a couple might develop techniques that may prolong an erection. Most importantly, the couple should try to relax. Anxiety (especially performance anxiety) only makes this condition worse. 

What treatments are available? There are several treatment choices for premature ejaculation: 

psychological therapy, behavioral therapy, and medications. 

• Psychological therapy addresses feelings a man may have about sexuality and sexual relationships. 

• Behavioral therapy makes use of exercises to help a man develop tolerance to stimulation and, as a result, delay ejaculation. 

• Medical therapy includes oral medications that can cause a delay in the time it takes from the beginning of sexual stimulation until ejaculation occurs.